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Those at risk for developing codependent tendencies include friends and relatives of chemically dependent people, people in recovery, adults from dysfunctional families, and families with secrets or unresolved trauma.

What is codependency?

You may be dealing with codependency if you struggle with...

• Approval-seeking or people pleasing

• Fear of being alone or abandoned sometimes means enduring an unhealthy relationship to avoid this.

• Feeling selfish or guilty for not meeting the needs of others.

• Feeling not good enough or feeling like you're too much or too little.

• Diminishing yourself or your accomplishments or being embarrassed or uncomfortable receiving recognition, praise, or gifts.

• Difficulty asking for help.

• Rescuing or fixing others, to your demise.

• Covering or taking a fall for others or making excuses for someone else’s behaviour.

• Giving your finances and other resources to depletion. 

• Over-responsibility or doing more than your fair share.

• Rescuing others while neglecting yourself.

• Trying to keep others happy.

• Afraid of being left out or rejected if you don't do what is expected.

• Putting aside your interests and hobbies to do what someone else wants.

• Feelings of guilt, shame, or self-blame.

• Perfectionism.

• Giving advice when people don't ask for it

• Taking on the responsibility for other people’s emotions, feelings, or behaviours.

• Minimizing, altering, or denying how you truly feel.

• Difficult making decisions.

• Believing someone else is incapable of taking care of themselves without your help.

• Offering advice and directions without being asked.

This is not an exhaustive list; are there any other behaviours you engage in that you think may be related to codependency?

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• Have activities cantering on the dependency in a way that negatively affects your relationships, school, and work

• Have a preoccupation with the dependency and spend a lot of time on planning, engaging in, and recovering from the dependency behaviour

• Have had changes in energy, such as being unexpectedly and extremely tired or energetic

• Have difficulty cutting down or controlling the dependent behaviour

• Have extreme mood changes

• Notice physical changes including increased illness and changes in weight
  
• Are sleeping a lot more or less than usual, or at different times of the day or night

• Notice a change in tolerance, which involves the need to engage in the dependent behaviour more and more to get the desired effect

• Have withdrawal symptoms, when you do not take the substance or engage in the activity, and you experience unpleasant symptoms

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